I help adults recovering from a narcissistic mother make choices from what they actually want, instead of guilt or fear of other people’s reactions.
Because recovery isn’t just about understanding your past. It’s about becoming less controlled by what you learned you had to be, and more able to choose who you are now.
Let’s be honest: you don’t just want to understand your mother. You want to finally stop organizing your life around her.
You may have read the books, listened to the podcasts, gone to therapy, learned the terminology, and even gone no contact.
And still, guilt, self-doubt, and old patterns can show up when it matters most. You know what happened—but you may still wonder,
“Why do I know better and still struggle to trust myself?”
You’re not failing. Understanding the past doesn’t automatically change what you’ve learned to do in the present.
You need practical ways to work with what happens now, so you can make decisions, set boundaries, and move through life without constantly questioning yourself.
That’s the part of recovery I’m here to help with.
I believe …
You don’t need to keep learning about what happened. You need to start living differently.
What you learned to do to survive doesn’t have to decide who you are now.
You build trust in yourself by making choices, and seeing that you can handle what comes next.
I want to help you turn what you understand into choices that feel like your own.
Who am I?
I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor who knows about narcissistic mothers from professional and personal experience.
For a long time, I consumed narcissistic awareness content almost every day. I read the books. I learned the terminology. I finally had language for what I’d experienced, and that validation mattered.
I finally knew I wasn’t crazy.
But eventually I realized I was still circling the same information.
I could explain what was happening. I could understand the dynamics. But I wasn’t actually feeling much different.
I was still thinking about how she would react:
She probably wouldn’t like this.
What would she think?
Should I do this differently?
I knew a lot about the relationship.
I just hadn’t realized how much of my life was still being lived around her.
One of the moments that changed that for me was my son’s birthday party.
It was the first time I’d planned and hosted something like that completely without her involvement, her opinion, or her voice in the process.
And when it was over, I realized:
I did this.
It didn’t have to be perfect. There were things I could do differently next time. But I didn’t need her to tell me whether I’d done it right.
I had made the decisions. I had handled what came up. And I was okay.
That experience gave me something that another year of learning about narcissism couldn’t:
evidence that I could trust myself.
That’s also where my work as a counselor began to take a different shape.
I saw how important it is to validate what happened—and it is important. But I also saw how much of the struggle happens outside the therapy room, in the ordinary moments when the old voice is still influencing a decision, a boundary, a relationship, or what you believe you’re allowed to want.
That’s the space I’m interested in.
Not replacing therapy.
Not becoming your therapist.
Not giving you another person whose answers you have to follow.
Practical support for the moments when you know what happened, but you’re still learning what to do with that knowledge.
Because I don’t want recovery to mean spending the rest of your life analyzing your mother.
I want there to be room for the life that comes after.
For me, that looks like
wearing the jewelry I wasn’t supposed to wear. Getting a tattoo because I want one. Making decisions from my own intuition. Letting people into my life without wondering what she would think.
That’s what I want for you, too.
Not a life where you never feel guilt or uncertainty again.
A life where those feelings don’t get the final say.
A life where, little by little, you have enough evidence to say:
“I trust myself.”
Some fun stuff…
- ☕ Drinking: A chai latte with oat milk or a dirty chai when I need the extra boost. For a **special treat** Baileys Chocolate Milkshake.
- 🍔 Eating: A medium-well Red Robin burger with fries and honey mustard. No notes.
- 🎬 Watching: Downton Abbey is my forever comfort historical drama. I’m also currently into Survival of the Thickest and Not Suitable for Work.
- 🌿 On a free day: Wandering around the mall, going to a local nature park, or people-watching somewhere with absolutely nowhere I need to be.
- 👩👧 Being a mom: The thing that has surprised me most is just how easy it is to love your child.
- 🗓️ My planning style: I used to plan everything. Then I had a toddler. Now I’m learning to figure it out as I go.
- 💬 My ideal conversation: I’m an introvert, but give me a good deep conversation and I’m very happy.
- 😂 My humor: Dry. Sarcastic. Occasionally inappropriate for the situation.
- 🍰 My weakness: Sweets. Always sweets.
Something you might not know: My family is from Central America, and I am fluent in Spanish.
Something you might not know: My family is from Central America, and I am fluent in Spanish.Why Work With Me:
Clinical background
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I bring a clinical understanding of trauma, relationships, and family dynamics to the work—but I don’t use this space as therapy or trauma treatment. I use that knowledge to create ethical, practical recovery tools that help you apply what you already understand to real-life situations.
Lived Experience
I understand that no two mother-daughter/son relationships are the same. But I also know this territory personally. As someone who has lived through this relationship and worked through its aftermath, I understand the difference between knowing what happened and actually learning how to live differently because of it.
Lifelong Learner
I believe good work requires staying curious and continuing to learn. I’ve completed advanced training in Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents with internationally recognized expert Dr. Karyl McBride, and I continue to deepen my knowledge of narcissistic family dynamics, recovery, and the real-life challenges that come after awareness.